There have been a number of studies done, which show how narcissism is on the rise within the realms of social media, as well as how social skills in young people seem to be getting stunted (although, I personally think it’s happening in old people too if that is even possible.)
Most people are aware of this, and we certainly see enough of it on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram etc. so much so it has now just become common, and maybe about as irritating as a fly which won’t buzz off, but there is nothing we can do because we’re too busy playing Candy Crush and other important social media games.
Note: I used to be addicted to Bejewelled Blitz a few years ago, till my eyes nearly fell out of my face. Now, I don’t play online games because I’ve been emotionally scarred by that experience.
When I’m on Facebook, I’m able to skim past the crappy ‘me, me, me’ status updates, the pointless selfies, the validation seeking but not quite self-deprecating enough BitStrips cartoons (you do not look like that, it is not cute how you think you look like that, and there is a brown skin colour option in there all you people of the east!)
However, the quote trend is something I’ve always liked. It makes me stop long enough to read, because let’s admit, quotes are usually prettier to look at in image form and do hold someone’s attention more than your baby on a potty for the six hundredth time might.
Also, I like quotes.
I’ve noticed though, over time, that not all (OK a majority) of these quotes are nice, and mostly hold a note or more of narcissism, as well as outright belittling of others.
More and more, they seem to be saying “I am awesome, you are not, and this quote proves it.”
Here are some I’ve come across in the last week alone.
Was there really a need for the ‘Because?’ – Does it ever occur to people like this that others probably do understand, but just have nothing they feel they can say back? Or, that your whining is just so annoying they wish you’d just stop but are too polite to say so?
There is no need to look for validation if you’ve decided to keep silent about some god-awful problem you are having. However, moaning to the whole world how martyrly silentful you’re being, is not being silent.
Well, whoop de do! I’d give you a medal, but I’m fresh out.
You must be such an awesome friend to have right? I’ll bet all your friends are so grateful to have perfect you in their lives.
What is the world coming to if no one is really willing to take responsibility for their own actions in anything? Why does it always have to be about how awesome we are, but if only this idiotic world would notice our virtues and struggles? Or, how the relationship went to shit because the other person was full of shit while we were so saintly and perfect? Or, the friendship ended because the other person was self-serving and demanding and made us only sacrifice our time, our patience, our energy, our everything which we willingly did because again… Saint!
It’s unhealthy to constantly think this way, it’s definitely narcissistic, not to mention passive aggressive, and downright annoying. This menace needs to stop. Now. This is not about you.
It’s about me, and how my fondness for quotes is being threatened.